Wilbur the Witch?

imagination is limitless, without it, my life will just be an empty shell and i will basically turn into a robot like what most pple here have become... i love to dream, it helps me get away from the idiosyncrasy of life... i somehow believe in the theory of the matrix... we start to loose our individuality and start to have the same characteristics all just cause we are afraid... why do we succumb so easily to Fear? i dont want to be like that and hope i never will... i'm glad for all the bad that happen to me for without them, i will just be easily fazed and become that scaredy little cat... things i say sometimes may be mean but i speak the truth that are in the hearts of those that dare not speak... to pple i diss, the mean words are spoken with mockery but to those who i call frens, the same mean words are spoken with affection with not intention to hurt but if i somehow hurt u one way or the other, know tt i'm paying for it by being stuck in where i am *grins* somehow not being able to get outta here is the price for my having a mean mouth... darn! it's eternal damnation from the looks of it... but i'm not complaining cos for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction... i cant hold my tongue and i will never will for that is where i lose my identity and i stop being me...

Wilbur Raves!

went to yokeling's 2nd baby 1st month yest... her house was pretty cool as her hubby decorated the walls with framed pics of the family, some of which he took himself as he is an avid photographer, much like those ang mo houses u see on tv prog like 'one house, 2 looks', it's a 5-room flat at bishan but the prev owner did renovated it and it din even resemble a HDB flat when u walk into it, more like a little landed house =) they got it at a steal for $336k abt 3yrs ago... realli happy for yokeling tt things are gg well for her =) ... she is a really sweet fren that does the sms to ask how we are and all that... btw, her 2nd kid's name si bei chio wor -

Zephyr.

What do u expect from parents who both are teachers *grins*. Her 1st 2yr old kid's name is Calen. Very cute kid and yoke seems to be frens with her kid rather than a mum :) she and hubby still do things together till now like cycle, backpack to BKK with kid in tow (she just put him on a sling when touring in BKK!) ... cool fren, cool life that my heart smiles for her =) i also caught sight of a framed collage of wedding photos tt wasnt in the album during her wedding... she has such model like looks and poses tt could beat those models in style wedding magazines hands down! btw, yoke's pure vegan chinese but she is dark-skinned by genes but her look is really alluring a bit like michelle saram... best thing abt her is there is no airs, simple yet charming...

steph is in Aceh and unable to come to the baby shower so only me and huiqing was there... 4 of us have been frens for the longest time - since pre-u. Though we rarely meet-up or chat, once we do get together, we are able to pick up where we last left off though it can be like a couple of years =) each of us chose different paths after school, steph - air stewardess; yoke - teacher, huiqing - in BP, but that din stop us from still being close frens... they are the ones that know every bit of my dirty little secrets *chuckles*... which brings to me to sum up a few traits of a good friend...

• listens and doesnt judge as they understand they are not in the situation u are in
• doesnt question the decisions u make and backs u all the way even if u fail
• doesnt impose their ideas on you and forces you to take them as they accept who u are
• readily offers a shoulder to cry on and offers help even when it means they have to make some personal sacrifices
• is observant of your feelings and mood without the need to tell them and will usu know what to say or do to make u feel better
• doesnt get upset over little issues such as not returning an sms etc as they understand you could be busy
• frank without offending as u can sense they care and have well intentions

when both parties mutually fulfill the above, you become great pals and i'm thankful to have so many which makes up for some things i'm missing in my life such as closeness to family, having siblings etc ;)

Wilbur & Frens went to the zoo to see ghouls ;)

my back is still sore after the massage session yesterday but the auntie was good, the massage was bloodie painful tt i wanted to moan out loud but i managed with just soft squeals for fear the patrons outside having their foot massages would have their thots run wild and before i know it, i might withness a mass orgie when step out of the curtain *guffaws*

felt much lighter after the session though when CK and MW saw me after, they said i looked damn shagged =p ... auntie said i had too much huo qi (loosely translated: fire air *lol*) and said i needed to drink loads of water and drink liang cha... hmmm... is that why my temper also v bad with the gals nowadays??!! but realli each time i come home, winter is bound to do some things to irritate like yest, the washing machine was lop-sided one of those stand to prop up the washer came off... just afraid that one of these days i would find one of them having their legs squashed underneath =/ maybe halloween coming so tendency to have such thots lol...


talking which yest's outing with CK and MW to the nite safari was cool stuff... they had the halloween theme gg on and we took the halloween tram and walked the forest giant trail to be thrilled by the halloween characters =) one group of gals waited for us so that we could walked together lol... simply fun and was nice that such events could bring strangers together :) it's really like giordano's tag line "a world without strangers" took a couple of pics... noticed tt i had the same expression in almost every pic... cos if i din wink and stuck my tongue out (yeah, acting cute *u can be excused and go puke lol*), i would look more ghastly than the ghouls themselves leh... cos my make-up have all melted and my tired face is not a pretty sight lor =p btw nearly wanted to smack the heads of this couple tt were queuing in front of us for the tram ride... they were trigger happy with their cam, taking shots of themselves every few SECONDS tt we keep having to siam here and there and poor MW keep getting their flashes in her eyes... i mean if u take with the ghouls or the surroundings okay lah but just keep taking close-ups shots of themselves, might as well stay home and take!!! kuku-fied cam whores leh... i just wish when their pics come out, there would be ghostly apparitions in all their pics >=) call me a meanie but if u cant be considerate to others ard, wilbur hyde would just take over...


here's the pics... not for the faint hearted hor... cos I look ghastly posey ahahahaha =D
oh yeah, the mummy has hairy pits kekekeke and the ghoul (2nd row, 1st pic) kinda resembles me i think... i like her dressing, macham like ruby gloom sans the red hair =) the chinese jiang shi somehow reminds me of WQ *hysterical laughter* i think the pic of poison ivy with CK is cool lor... she is sexy and pretty and reminds us a bit of aileen :) nice pout!

Give Wilbur her Choya Martini =)

brought WQ to eM on tues... i still think eM is nice place to chill, eat, drink n talk... their food is pretty good, we had the sausage bangers and sauteed prawns and of course i had to have my choya martini and gin tonic *grins* WQ had his usual happy hr beers... not into beers now, maybe had one too many over the past tt the taste just makes me sick.. but i guess i wont mind if it's one of the light beers from brewerks cos the taste not as strong but otherwise, nah, i will pass up...

we chatted for quite long but i think i have a habit of repeating myself sometimes heh, old liao, so tend to be naggy but i guess it's nice to have such buddy sessions... kinda remind me of the times when CK and me used to chill but we have less of such sessions cos we dont work together anymore and also his work is quite siong now (US co.) but still he is truly a good fren to have although a bit 38 sometimes *lol*... but really he is a hao hao sian shen... even dragon says he has a v honest look *chuckles* the kind that doesnt harm pple which is so damn true...

anyway, we broached on the subject of relationships... personally, i'm one who will not mind doing the chase if i feel that person is most prob the ONE, doesnt matter attached (usu unhappily) or not but of course he has to at least show the some slight interest in me too else no point :) it may sound bad to some but i believe in finding my own happiness and i know myself only too well after all that i have gone thru... if between love and obligation, i will be the one to choose the former cos i know if i stick to a person just out of obligation, down the road, this union will not last as i will tend to find faults with the person as i cant accept them as they are and will try to change them just to fit into my liking... which in the end is not fair to the other person as well and both will suffer... so for me, its definitely love and knowing the kind of stunts i will pull, i rather stick to someone i love alot rather then to someone i find so-so but loves me... i'm truly happy with dragon now and i definitely know its love cos there isnt any urge or intention to set eyes on anyone else =) i accept him for the way he is dressing, attitude, character and all... even in non-rosy times, my mind doesnt wander... i find tt when we have our pics taken, my smiles tend to be natural and not posey which kinda depicts the state of our relationship *grins* i generally am not photogenic, so i hate to take photos and when i have to, i always turn out fugly in them ie. insincere crooked smile, one eye big; one eye small etc =p i thot the pic below turned out ok though :)

i had been in a relationship that lasted 7yrs... this started when i was in pre-u... naturally at that age then, you would think that u end up being married etc but we grew apart (rather, my thinking changed) when i went to poly... breaking up wasnt an easy thing to do but i'm glad i did it... of course i deliberated alot before initiating as i knew my ex loved me and i was afraid tt i couldnt find someone to love me as much and also the thot of going thru a whole new relationship again seemed draining and quite a chore but i knew i no longer had the love so it wouldnt be fair to him to continue... most times, we try not to rock the boat and put aside any thots tt might messed things up but in order to find our own happiness, we should sometimes take a step back and assess the situation... no one can tell us whether we make the right or wrong decisions as life is an unpredictable journey but as long as u have the support from frens (btw, you can dump those frens who try to run your life for you) and/or family sometimes its all that matters :)

Wilbur digs Fiona Xie

i wasnt a fan of Fiona Xie till i caught re-runs of the chinese drama serial "Room in My Heart" which ended its run last week... it was showing on weekdays at 11pm... her acting was good, so much better than all the cutesy roles she did... but i must applaud the rest of the cast in tt show as well cos their acting was convincingly good... how i define good? i was able to feel the sadness they portrayed in the scenes that it made my eyes watered *grins* ... its strange fiona doesnt have any more serious roles given to her... but she wasnt too bad in that sitcom with adrian pang... darn! cant rem the name of tt show but its where she played a bride ghost :) ...

in her real life, some says she grabs attention by acting cute and all but i'm impressed by her reel life acting so i give credit for that :)

Happy the new hammie i bought gave birth to 6 new pups... they are so adorably cute, will be keeping all but have to buy a new tub for them though cos have to separate the boys =p ... i din know that she was pregnant, no wonder her temperament changed and she started attacking Daisy, my other female hammie... at first i din know what was eating Happy, thot she was gila or something =p

gg to source for new couch, drawers and dining chairs later... not too hopeful abt finding cheap and nice ones though... i also need these in those material tt are practical as well but so far i doubt there are any in the market... i mean why can they do floral sofa in PVC or PU leather for easy maintenance?? floral always comes in fabric while leather or PVC in just one boring colour... BORING!

Oh yah, joining MW, WL and their families for a bbq session tonite at the chevrons.... pretty far but MW's mum asked her to ask me so must shang lian :) not too sure whether dragon wants to go though but will still go... can wear my floral shorts there... woohoo =)

Wilbur sums up the weekend :)

last fri, i bought the cakes from the verandah cafe to bring to weiren... 4 cakes (2 mango cheesecake, 2 choc) and 1 simple chix sandwich cost me $28... yeah, i was stunt too... what i'm upset is that they charge svc charge when mine is take-away...duh! buay kam wan have to pay the svc charge still... but i would still go back there for lunch though but not for take-aways any time soon =p anyway, i alighted at bugis and was planning to shop ard at bugis village when this female german backpacker asked me for directions to hangout@emily... in the end i ended up walking with her all the way to upper wilkie road :) just thot might as well be nice and helpful all the way... though the weather was terribly hot for the nite, it's a good experience and the good thing is that now i know where this hostel is :) cool place and i might ask the guys to hang out there for makan... there is like a happening club next door... hmm... one of these days...

after bringing her there (strange that we din ask for each other names *grins*), i walked all the way to coffee nations and met daniel, may-anne and jeremy there... ended up playing some wild west card games with them =)

sat was pretty much stay home to recharge whilst sun, i went to collect shinobi's ashes back =) bought a lot of junk and groceries again heh... nuf said, here r a couple of pics i took tonite :) walked from office to P.S

Wilbur's a year older =p

dragon brought me to eat buffet at Vienna at United Sq (Novena)... his fren, kenneth joined us :) ... btw kenneth is also a libra and his birthday will be this fri... so looks like taurus and libra can gam :)

anyway, vienna has a wide range of food =), a bit cheena cos majority of the waiters and waitresses are from ROC plus some of the patrons are those not that old but got auntie say kwan, large family like from the outskirts; seldom go out ... sorrie lah, not trying to put these pple down just that their kiasu behaviour can be a bit irritating =p like this stupid woman, she hogged the fondue station by trying to grab all the strawberries , nvm tt, she dip each strawberry one by one and never even had the courtesy to let me dip 1st, felt like dunking her whole head into the fondue man!!! cock leh!

anyway, the decor is also a bit circa 1970s... the furnishings was to theme of their name, vienna, but its like old kind of posh decor u would find in the 70s hee hee... machiam like the very old Broadway studio in river valley if you know what i mean... no complains since i like things fu-gu ie retro lol... anyway, the buffet cost $35.90 per pax ... i think its rather worth with the large variety of food they have... do try it yeah :)

tmr having dinner with ck and tee... mw and wl suppose to come but mw sms me in the evening to say the cable guy coming to their house tmr to do the installation... bummer! intending to go to liang ct to eat but might decide to change the venue cos have to drop by coffee nations to pass some stuff to wr... will see... tmr's dinner might not happen too... oh well... que sara, sara lor =)

clover seem to be want alot of attention from me =p aye tt poor gal... me not well these couple of days so just sleep and sleep, not much time for her ... i like pulling the micheal jackson baby stunt on her though ie. carry her and put her near the window... she hates that i think kekeke... she wld use her paw to push against the wall in bid for me to stop putting her so far out... btw, my windows are not child proof ie. there isnt any grills cos i dont like the idea of having grills as i tend to feel trapped like that... btw, i grew up without grills in my house and i stayed on the 11th floor =) i was pretty left on my own with minimal supervision, naturally i think i ever considered pulling a superman stunt but i think i was able to control myself lor seeing how the eggs splat when i threw them down... i was very mischevious when young... i threw a whole lot of eggs from my flat onto the cars downstairs lol... was trying to aim the eggs at the cars heh... i even caused the curtain pole in my house to collapse by trying to sit in the hole in the curtain... of course i blame it on my then cocker spaniel, Cosmic, for pulling the thing down when my dad heard the crash =9 ... damn terrible hor... such events happened so many years ago and yet i still remember them but yet there are times when i cant rem what i ate the day before... rationale is i only rem things worth remembering =)

bought 2 new hammies but had to separate them after a couple of days cos Happy ke siao and started to pick on Daisy... cuckoo nut lor... now one of Happy's eyes cant be fully opened while Daisy has a super deep wound on her back... haiz... Happy really a nut case...

havent got my massage yet though i badly need one... cant find a suitable time... plus these couple of days unwell, could not even make it out of the house... will see, will see...

Wilbur is touched by Paul Pott's singing...

came back abt 2am yest nite after a chill out session at timbre with yenfuu and his colleague, chao sen... was totally worn out that i fell asleep on the couch and din wake up till 6am this morning to shower and clear up the doggies' cell... 53A, the band playing at timbre last nite was awesome! the female lead singer and the rest was damn bloodie good... too bad i was pretty tired that i could even nod off a couple of times though music was pretty loud =p ...

anyway, had about 3.5 drinks last nite, gin tonic, flaming tower, tequila sunrise and a bit of erdinger beer... thanks to my age, i wasnt high and i could speak coherently too *chuckles* maybe having the lafayette steak was a good choice so the alcohol could find something to burn and hence could not get high easily =p btw, yenfuu was damn nice, he blanja me for yest's dinner and drinks at timbre as a treat for me birthday! wasnt cheap wor! thanks a million man!

below are some pics which i took the past couple of days - yest's flaming tower (the blue flame is so damn cool!), suntec convention centre, bt batok csc...

waking up so early this morning, i managed to catch oprah on tv and she was talking abt youtube, interviewed those whom propelled into stardom by it as well as those who had like a million hits... there was this humble brit salesman who joined the brit's version of america got talent... his voice is so angelic and even though i din understand a word of nessun dorma, i teared throughout... the same thing happen to some of oprah's audiences as well... without further ado, may i present paul pott...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1k08yxu57NA

simon signed on paul and his album, one chance, sold 1 million copies worldwide... but this humble simpleton still retains his job as a phone salesman!

i'm touched by his singing... are u? =)

Many Inhalers in Wilbur's House!

dragon has been trying to cut down on ciggies for the longest time and he buys those vicks inhalers in bid to smoke less but each time he loses it round the house and buys some more *shakes head and sniggers*... i was clearing up the bed room just now and found 2 of such inhalers stuck at the side of the sofa bed kekekeke... total 4 inhalers in the house liao ... somehow combine my buying sprees plus his forgetfulness, we can open up a mama shop liao *guffaws*...

Wilbur loves Sweet Slice of Life!

chanced upon this dessert cafe in Far East Plaza couple of days back... located at the basement somewhere next to Long John Silver's... the area a bit secluded but follow the above instructions and it should be relatively easy to find :)


they serve thinly sliced flavoured ice and trust me this is cool stuff! pun intended lol... i tried Holy Matrimony which comprises of matcha slice (green tea ice), giant red beans and grounded peanuts... the combination seems simple but after you tried it you will be sold! this can really pass up as a real jap dessert wor! best thing is that it's not overly sweet and for those who prefer it sweeter, you can add condense milk for free of course... me not a fan of stuff too milky so I told them not to add the condense milk which actually is part of the ingredient :) whats amazing is that the ice is so thin it feels like snow and melts slowly into your mouth... perfect for a warm weather or as a reward after extreme shopping like me :) intending to try First Date the next time me there... prices are pretty reasonable from $3.50 to $4.50! here's their webbie http://slice.sg to find out more ;)

for the gals, go and check it out cos one of the owners si bei cool, he was the one who prepared my order... he looks a bit like jap but is local, wore a cap and had slightly long wavy hair, exudes say-ness... he looks like one of the Tang Quartet guys but of course this one more eye candy... he is the kind that would make me fumble if he talked to me when I was younger *grins* but now me older, more confidence and not that easily intimidated lol... but got dragon so i have natural blinkers liao... will appreciate beauty but doesnt me i have to own it haha... wish i can say the same for my love for clothes, shoes, accessories as well =p

btw, in case u r wondering, this cafe is not opened by someone i know hor... just thot their dessert is nice and unique so they deserved to be mentioned... besides they all look young, so i want them to sustain as they seem to have a winning formula but maybe location only :)

Darn!

just went to sistic webbie and darn, i din know tt russell peters was coming!!! aaarrrrggghhh tickets for the 2 days are all out =( he is a bloodie good standup comedian lor, too bad have to miss it! anyway, hossan live is on, so i will be booking for that :) sorrie if i dont jio cos i think most of u will be bored with him liao ... for me i'm a true fan so doesnt matter if i hear him over and over heh... he never fails to bring a wide, wide smile on me face!

sent a complaint email to Premier cab earlier... damn bloodie pissed with the female silvercab driver who not only took the long route, she did not drop me off at my exact destination (British High Commission) somemore! She drop me off at US Embassy instead and could just tell me that she dont where the Brit High Comm was went I told her this wasnt it! F***ing CB! yeah, i rarely spew vuglarities but when i do, means i'm totally pissed liao... she should just be sacked even if she needs the job cos if you cant bloody do your job well, it is just not right to carry on! she could have told me when i boarded that she din know the way or the place and this could allow me to hail another cab but NO, she was selfish and inconsiderate enought to just keep quiet throughout the 40 mins journey!! imagine! 40 mins from marine parade to tanglin! might as well take the bus! let's wait n see what Premier has to say! NB!

was damn upset and angry with myself yest, i fell asleep on the couch and doggies managed to get into the hamsters room and killed my 2 white syrians... wanted to kill myself but what's done is done... i'm thankful that shinobi is still alive...he is my darling one cos he is very clean and kuai... maybe cos i dont shower the 2 fatties that much attention so not that devastated but if it was shinobi, i would most prob throw the doggies down from the window... i know it is my fault for being careless but clover should know better cos she got hell the last time when she killed the guinea and hammy when she was just a couple months old... this time, i just locked them up in the kitchen and ignoring them... since they abuse the freedom they have, they should learn... how long they will be in there? well, until her majesty's pleasure >=/ have to move on... i hate it when i cause misery to others and in this case death... the feeling of guilt is never an easy thing to let go... i just hope they will be with God in Heaven...

drank wine and chatted with my neighbor (hubby and wife) yest nite... it's nice to know you have pple looking out for you... they are really nice and suay bian... knowing i was alone cos dragon is away, they ask me to join them :)

i cant complain cos to me the bad things always even out with the good things...

btw, managed to get the idea book by Fredrik Haren in style nordic at ann siang road... it's a good and creativity book... its selling at $45 by the way... recently was on a splurging binge again aye aye... my excuse? birthday coming lol... i always have an excuse, damn terrible rite?

oh yah, already submitted my application for renunciation of my Brit overseas national citizenship... freaking cost me $260... office should reimburse man cos it is not by my choice that i want to convert =( ... feel sad actually when i submitted my application... it seems tt i somehow lose that link... btw, i think i really inherited some Brit traits from my great grand mama cos most of the brits came in last minute to process their passports etc... the office closes at 1230pm but at 1220pm pple were still coming in heh... me always a last minute person lol...

i recently bought lemongrass aromatherapy oil... the smell is fantastic man! it's so soothing and smells like a spa :)) cool stuff! not cheap the oil $17.90... nearly wanted to buy a simple burner at $17 but decided against it as I think i could get cheaper ones... in the end, neighbor gave me theirs :) they got it for $2 from m'sia but they a bit high class cos the bought the oil from hann and thann at T3 which cos $70 for a big bottle and they also bought the clay beads from there as well! they still say cheap =p

gotta go poo... cya!

A tip from Wilbur

i tend to throw away bread cos can t finish them even though i buy those sunshine half loaves... decided to buy tortilla wraps instead as those can be stored and have a longer shelf life, besides, it saves me the trouble of having to go down to the mama shop when i need bread lol... yes, i'm that lazy and i look ghastly when at home so when i need to get out, i have to like do alot, like washing face etc =p it's not cheap the wraps but at least i dont waste food :p

Wilbur takes a different route

Yest was a freaking busy day and today might be as well... laundry, hang clothes, fold clothes, email to UK consular for renunciation of citizenship, go to AUPE to pay for subscription to claim for hospital fees, return plate and tray to Pattaya Garden, clean hamster cages, upload photos onto webbie store, ask about idea book where all the freaking stores in SG dont carry, buy soap holder, find ribbon sash, go for massage, talk to honey, play with dogs, pluck brows, pit hair, leg hair... the list goes on and on...

so for those of you still living with parents, be thankful you dont have to worry abt getting groceries and laundry and all.... mummy dearest is always around to help (yes, it comes with nagging always but it sometimes beats having to do things all by yourself :)) so understand that i do not have time and patience for frivolous things, i prioritise what's impt there and then cos there are simply many things to juggle! i appreciate frens who understand and not get upset over the more minor of things like not replying to sms etc, so those of know who know me well, to out it bluntly i kinda live by "take it, or leave it"... those who wanna pick and be upset over the smallest of things, i cant be bothered cos like i said before, there are much more to life than these... it only proves you are narrow minded and have not seen the world... trapped in your own little world while you think you know it all just makes you irksome... i value friendship a great deal, some of you experienced it, i can just drop everything and help you cos i know u truly need it... so if i come across as heartless or 'hard' (not literally hor! cos me still female lol) to you, hmmm... it's time to check on yourself and understand that both our priorities are different... i'm open to criticisms if i know they come from pple who mean well, u can tell me straight in the face and i would take it, may be upset but i welcome it cos i want to improve to be a better person to those i love and care... i like to be forward with pple and i will suffocate if i'm unable to communicate my thots or feelings to pple who i know cannot take straight up and will get upset over the simplest of things... pauline, u will understand this cos i bitched 2 u abt this before *grins*...

there are those who constantly complain busy and all and i mean constantly and always pull a long face but like the boy who cried wolf, pple can see through their actions and then not bother after a while... okay here's comes my heartless retort: "get used to it!"

i went to causeway mall yest and i stood throughout in the bus journey from my place to there... there were empty seats but decided to stand and take a good look at the surroundings... each journey i see something new, sometimes i guess it's good to take a different route just for the experience cos we only live once :)

Wilbur on a Sunday...

attended xiuzhen's wedding dinner yest nite at this chinese restaurant on the 6th level of UIC building... food was good and the service wasnt too bad... i din realise it was a tung lok restaurant till after like the 5 or 6 dish when i saw the wrapper on the toothpick... pretty duh of me rite *grins* the waitress serving us was an auntie so she was pretty fast and efficient as compared to the other weddings i have attended where we are usu served by young men who seem to be really clueless when it comes to serving... can forgive if the young thing (doesnt matter if boy or gal) is eye candy *guffaws* but usu not the case heh...

how good was the auntie? well, our drinks were topped up promptly and correctly without once having to ask! so u can imagine how many glasses of red wine i had last nite! =) not that i'm complaining lor *grins*... btw, think i'm holding up my liquor pretty well nowadays... dont get high that easily though am drinking more than the normal i used to drink... must be the age thing *bleah* ...u know the saying, one gets better to age lol... applies to my *ahem* other stuff too ;)

back to the auntie... she cleared the dishes promptly and if there were left overs, she transferred them to a smaller plate and put them back on the table... (at 1st when she removed the dish with the leftovers, she din say anything so both me n sh wanted to chide her for not asking but lucky we held back for she came back with the leftovers in a jiffy!)

saw teck lan and kim lan at the dinner as well... they look good esp teck lan, teased tt she looked more and more like an obasan :)

weiren gave me a lift to his cafe so that i could take 48 back home... i met his one of his young waitress and i immediately took in to her... not that my dormant gay side is emerging but she had the kind of face and attitude that made me miss not having a kid sister... back in school, i liked taking care of those younger than me, guess me being so young then i mistook this side of me as having lesbian tendencies... but over the years i realised that it might be due i was always the only kid at home so i longed for companion to be able to shower love, concern and attention... i think jiawen was the only in school back then that i treated her so much like a younger sis that pple thot we were lovers *...* ... we rarely keep in contact now but she still has problematic when it comes to relationship, silly gal *affectionate suaning*...
somehow i can picture myself gg shopping with her (cant remember her name at this moment lol) and giving her advice, looking out for her like a big sis would *shrugs* ... yes, i'm strange but if you lived how i had and is a libra maybe you would feel the same too :)

last fri, we had dinner at bt batok botak jones after the exchange and bowling... kangwei, kengho, wq, pauline, ngian chao, ng yong, alicia, shufen, ck and me... pretty unusual mix but it goes to show why sometimes i like the office, we are not usual lunch buddies or that close in office for that matter but yet we could click and have a nice talking cock session, ex and new colleagues and all... no pretences whatsoever :) btw, alicia and sf were close frens in jc and were in hockey together... small world eh...

gotta shower in a couple of mins... gg to lichoo's house to see her month old pride n joy... i'm not v good with babies, hope Sarabelle doesnt freaked at the sight of me =p many errands to run after that... feel like gg to see some french country furniture... have been thinking of revamping me home for the longest time but shall see, shall see, cos of the 2 monkeys at home so cant get too delicate stuff as well but i think french or english country decor would go well with them hahahaha =D ...

oh yah, need to get the idea book by fredrik haren the swed who gave that entertaining and fabulous talk on creativity during exchange... totally awesome cos he was brutally frank... how good was he? i actually took notes for the 1st time in history during exchange!!!! need i say more?!

Wilbur's Recommended Read...

special thanks to Tee for sending me this brilliant article...

By Dr Lee Wei Ling

I was born and bred in Singapore. This is my home, to which I am tied
by family and friends. Yet many Singaporeans find me eccentric, though
most are too polite to verbalise it. I only realised how eccentric I
am when one friend pointed out to me why I could not use my own
yardstick to judge others.

I dislike intensely the elitist attitude of some in our upper
socio-economic class. I have been accused of reverse snobbery because

I tend to avoid the wealthy who flaunt their wealth ostentatiously or
do not help the less fortunate members of our society.

I treat all people I meet as equals, be it a truck driver friend or a
patient and friend who belongs to the richest family in Singapore.

I appraise people not by their usefulness to me but by their character.

I favour those with integrity, compassion and courage. I feel too many
among us place inordinate emphasis on academic performance, job status,
appearance and presentation.

I am a doctor and director of the smallest public sector hospital in
Singapore, the National Neuroscience Institute (NNI). I have 300
staff, of whom 100 are doctors. I emphasise to my doctors that they
must do their best for every patient regardless of paying status.

I also appraise my doctors on how well they care for our patients, not
by how much money they bring in for NNI. My doctors know I have friends
who are likely to come in as subsidised patients. I warn them that if
I find them not treating any subsidised patient well, their appraisal -
and hence bonus and annual salary increments - would be negatively
affected. My doctors know I will do as I say.

I remind them that the purpose of our existence and the measure of our
success is how well we care for all our patients - and that this is
the morally correct way to behave and should be the reason why we are
doctors. In NNI , almost all patients are given the best possible
treatment regardless of their paying status..

My preference for egalitarianism extends to how I interact with my
staff. I am director because the organisation needs a reporting
structure. But my staff are encouraged to speak out when they disagree
with me. This tends to be a rarity in several institutions in
Singapore. The fear that one's career path may be negatively affected
is what prevents many people from speaking out. This reflects poorly on
leadership. In many organisations, superiors do not like to be
contradicted by those who work under them. Intellectual arrogance is a
deplorable attitude.

'Listen to others, even the dull and ignorant; they too have
their story,' the Desiderata tells us. It is advice we should all heed
- especially leaders, especially doctors. I speak out when I see
something wrong that no one appears to be trying to correct. Not
infrequently, I try to right the wrong. In doing so, I have stepped on
the sensitive toes of quite a few members of the establishment. As a
result, I have been labelled 'anti-establishment'. Less kind comments
include:

I am indifferent to these untrue criticisms; I report to my
conscience; and I would not be able to face myself if I knew that there
was a wrong that I could have righted but failed to do so.

I have no protective godfather. My father, Minister Mentor Lee Kuan
Yew, would not interfere with any disciplinary measures that might be
meted out to me.

And I am not anti-establishment. I am proud of what Singapore has
achieved. But I am not a mouthpiece of the government. I am capable
of independent thought and I can view problems or issues from a
perspective that others may have overlooked.

A few months ago, I gave a talk on medical ethics to students of our
Graduate Medical School. They sent me a thank-you card with a message
written by each student. One wrote: 'You are a maverick, yet you are
certainly not anti-establishment. You obey the moral law.' Another
wrote: 'Thank you for sharing your perspective with us and being the
voice that not many dare to take.' It would be better for Singapore's
medical fraternity if the young can feel this way about all of us in
positions of authority.

After the Sars epidemic in 2003, the Government began to transform
Singapore into a vibrant city with arts and cultural festivals, and
soon, integrated resorts and night F1. But can we claim to be a
civilised first world country if we do not treat all members of our
society with equal care and dignity? There are other first world
countries where the disparity between the different socio- economic
classes is much more extreme and social snobbery is even worse than in
Singapore. But that is no excuse for Singaporeans not to try harder to
treat each other with dignity and care. After all, both the Bible and
Confucius tell us not to treat others in a way that we ourselves would
not want to be treated. That is a moral precept that many societies
accept in theory, but do not carry out in practice. I wish Singapore
could be an exception in this as it has been in many other areas where
we have surprised others with our success.

The writer is director of the National Neuroscience Institute.

Wilbur's Fav Story of All Time =D

the never ending story of bao vs noodle... Slurp~

Chapter 1
One day, noodle quarrel with meat bao(bun). They had a fight but bao was too clumsy and lost badly. He was very angry and he told noodle to stay behind if he has the guts and he'll get his pals to assist him.Meat bao went to find bread, man tou, jian bao etc to get them to reinforce him. Along the way, they saw maggi mee. They ah bish ah bish ah bish and beat maggi mee up and maggi mee beri puzzled why he kena beaten up.He said, "Why u all beat me? What have I done to deserve this?"The meat bao said, "Noodle! Dun think u perm your hair then cannot recognise u!"

Chapter 2
Maggi mee, who was beaten up for no reason, was very angry. So he went to find bee hoon, udon, fried noodles etc to seek revenge.But on the way, they met small bao. Maggi mee looked at small bao for a while then told his brothers, "Bra-der! Whack him!" Maggi mee whack small bao "harder! harder."After the noodles family has left, they asked Maggi Mee why he hated small bao so much and beat him up so badly.Maggi mee said. "At first wanna teach him a small lesson only, but then see him act cute, made me so angry."

Chapter 3
The more small bao thought of it, the more buay song he was. So, he found the bao family to whack Maggi mee.Then they found ying shi juan (noodles covered with bun). They brought him back as hostage and were about to put him on the stove to force him to talk when the bao head said, "That's not noodles! That's our undercover!"

Chapter 4
The family of bao and noodles are now enemies and they have gang fights whenever they see each other. One day, the noodles family was having a walk when they saw char siew bao alone.Seeing the good chance, all of them attacked him. The noodles family shouted, "Beat him hard hard! Don't give chance just because he's vomiting blood

Chapter 5
Poor char siew bao, with his injuries, went to the bao headquarters to look for help. All the bao family was activated and together with red bean bao, green bean bun etc. they went to seek revenge. All the passerbys siam them as they look like they will kill.They saw french fries jalan jalan along, shopping. The bao family attacked him. The bao head shouted, "Noodle people still wear gold go shopping! Whack him!!!"

Chapter 6
Finally, the bao family manage to kidnap noodle, the one who started up the whole show, and brought him back to the bao headquarter.All the baos took turns to whack him. At the end, the chief of baos - dua bah bao took a final roll over noodle before they dump him.When the poor noodle finally went home, none of the family member could recognise him bcoz he is totally disfigured - flatten. In order not to let the family bear the bad name, he appears as a new member named Mee pok.

Wilbur.Timbre.Gin Tonic.

total 3 glasses of gin tonic for since yest... am i turning into an alcoholic? nah :) just social session with wq yest at timbre... was there again today with wq and keng ho... yest was pretty packed and i guess the reason was cause the band was good... today's crowd was pretty pathetic... the female filipino singer was just so-so... somehow i dont fancy females singing in clubs cos usu they dont get u in the mood like the boys do *shrugs* anyway, it was good to chill and having a basically talk cock session... helps relax the nerves which office tends to tense up :p took some pretty nice shots of fullerton too when heading home with the guys.... she's like the grander old dame compared to raffles hotel... maybe should have a walk in the premises when i get the chance...

yest's set-up for the signing ceremony was a damn rush thing as only one day to plan n set-up but lucky esther and weizhen was ard to provide suggestions and advice and made the event a pretty successful one :) though a bit stressful but i enjoyed the adrenalin rush of getting things in place... so much more certain tt i would maybe do ok as a wedding planner ;p

another day with many things lined up ahead... gotta proritise and take things a step and a time :) must be thankful i have a job :)

Wilbur has caught the flu bug =(

geez, me eyes are puffy, red n sore, have been having frequent bouts of sneezing, my nose is leaking and i'm feeling slightly chilly... me now not a very pretty sight but i guess it's better than when i was in the hospital where i was in no condition to care abt grooming so i looked much worse then *grins*...


got myself a new phone over the weekend cos the old one was a bit cranky (keypad not working well) ... sometimes i hate getting new phone cos i'm not one who is meticulous when it comes to syncing contacts, u know lah, transfer this and that and compare... bleah, so i guess i wont be having some of your contacts kekekeke... so dont mind me if i ask who r u ;p

i traded in the cranky phone for $50 so in the end got my Nokia 6600 Fold for $250... me a nokia fan all these years... even dragon who used to be a Nokia critic is now using Nokia... i tried using fren's phones of other brands and almost pulled my hair out when messaging! i think i never got round to keying in the 1st letter! so y should i make my life difficult?! just use back the same device which i'm already so used to, saves me time and frustrations; wont have to go thru the who process of learning to use the phone :); this kind of time can be better spent =)

i guess this applies to me in life as well... when i'm used to something i like, i will cont using it since it serves me well, never like to change unless absolutely necessary or something happens ie. dragon *grins*


stayed back with WQ and Pauline pretty late last fri, we were working on productivity stuff... by the time we left office was about 10-ish... it may seem sad to be working late on a fri nite but while i cutting through the SRC field to get to my bus stop, i observed that it was a pretty clear nite and the skyline was a pretty sight! hence, i whipped out my cam and took some shots of the supreme ct and the cbd office buildings... have attached one of it below :) truly happy with my captures which would not have been if i had left office earlier... it reminds me that there is always a silver lining to every dark cloud and there are always something good around =) these are the kind of things pple who wallow in self pity fail to see *shakes head* sad, huh! we are not dying in hunger or living in poverty and yet we tend to make our issues bigger than those who have it worst than us... yes, we live in a stressful society but joy should be looked within oneself and not from others... u cant change the environment but u can change your attitude towards it... i diss pple who dont get this...



although being involved in productivity is an extra load, but the benefits is that i'm makin new frens :) it a nice sharing a pizza with the 2 of them and talking crap as a break... also, its where i get to experience pple who r nice and helpful including those from other agencies like soong yin ... of course there are some who seem to be loafers but like gold 90.5fm, i shall only see the good stuff *smiles* ... such interactions may also pave a smoother path in future especially if i really get to be a wedding planner (yeah, still dreaming) :) got to tok to mirza the caterer from pattaya garden... it's interesting to meet new pple and those i can click usu share the same thots =)


i have many varied interests now and i think this is good as i will not easily wallow in depression like a couple of years back... i guess goods things always come out from experiences especially the bad ones... i'm glad i'm able to notice the good things when i look back ... i read some stuff on palm reading and my life is suppose to be trodden with obstacles ie. it will not always be a smooth ride... come to think of it, this may be the very reason that i'm more thankful and aware of the good things :)


i related to some of my frens my encounter with this bloodie idiot 50-ish lady at one of the toa payoh coffeeshop... i had so much wanted to just pour my soup at her and her fren to wake their bloodie idea! it was the 1st time i had to practise so much self restrain! i was heading towards the fish soup stall to order my dinner, there was a lady in front of me and i was next in line... this whole time, the idiot was standing on the opposite side of the queue in a manner like she had already ordered and was waiting for her take-away... the lady stall owner asked for my order and i move to the front of the q... i sought of look at the idiot and i think only then the stall owner realised the idiot's presence and then proceeded to ask for her order... the idiot was english speaking and i helped communicate the idiot's order to the chinese owner as they spent a couple of seconds clarifying the order... the owner thanked me but the idiot did not... which was fine as my intention was to help the owner anyway...the idiot then said this to me:" apparently, the owner does not have any sense of order." i din think much of it n replied:"maybe she didnt see u." anyway, the owner asked me to ask the idiot whether she would like milk added in her soup... again no word of thanks from the idiot but only from the owner but i din care too much as i was tired... both our food came out at the same time and i moved off to find a seat... the idiot and her fren sat nearby and she started dissing the owner for having no sense of order and said that other customers would have been angry and not order from her blah blah blah... she made the owner seemed so rude which was not the case! i tried to block off their conversation, but to no avail as later she went criticising the whole of s'pore and it's pple and it went on and on... my temper was slowly building up and i so wanted to shout at her for being the rude one as she did not even bother to thank me when i helped her placed her order!
some pple really dont look at themselves 1st before condemning others! it's times like this i wished i was a jobless ah lian as i could create a scene without having to bear much consequences! i just wish she was just fall flat on her face and no one is around to help her!

'nuf of that unpleasant reminder ...

i took a smrt bus back that day... so used to calling it trans island lol... i have a love/hate relationship with smrt buses... the drivers usu drive off immediately once the last passengers get his feet up on the bus that it will cause us to lose our balance :P but it's the impatience and absurd speed that makes me get home faster than i can say smrt ;p most smrt bus drivers like got speeding tickets before one lol... since it balance out, no complains from me =)

gotta do some work now... ciao!

Wilbur is tired but happy =)

for the 1st time in my life i was a sister (jie2 mei4) for a wedding... it was tiring but worth it as i was part of a life-changing event for my friend so dear :) though we no longer work in the same office or meet-up often, we still maintain a kind of bond and understanding tt we will always be there for each other... on a few occassions pple mistook us as sisters when we went out kekeke =) we both have kept some things from each other, but when we both found out, there was no unhappiness whatsoever, as it came to a pt where we also know some things are not so easy to say and maybe this is how our friendship became stronger... seeing her walked down the aisle yest, tears welled up in my eyes... i felt so proud n happy for her... it din matter i was running up and down for both her and her hubbie for their wedding dinner preparations yest... i was realli glad to help!

the reward of true friendship what kept me gg all this while, i din mind working behind the scenes as long as my frens could get their work done and get recognition for it or sometimes so that they they dont get into trouble from voldermort :) getting appreciation from them matters more than from the fiery fiend :p as they always say, one good turn deserves another...

sometimes, no matter how bad the environment is, as long as i'm are working there, i have to put personal feelings aside and work for the good of the branch/dept so as to not let other agencies criticise us for not doing a good job... there are many things that cant be taught but learnt through attitude and willingness accept...

Wilbur: "To Clementi, to Clementi to find a fren so Pretty!"

heading to MW's house tonite to sleep over and help her with the preparation for her BIG day tmr *wide smile*... though i'm a bit tired but anything for a truly great fren! i hope i will be alert enuf tmr... gotta bring lotsa stuff over tonite... including my clothes for the morning visits as well as the evening dinner =p ... i havent plan what to wear for the evening dinner... she says i can wear jeans hee, tempting but shall see how cos i need something whereby i need not have to bring extra shoes and all.... so many stuff to plan but me feeling sleepy now =p

past couple of days, some of u may find me being rather harsh be it in my words or actions but its cos i'm so jaded... been in the dept for 11yrs and i have gone thru so many changes, experiences and encounters... people then were generally considerate, pleasant, nice, helpful, fun etc... that's how we have become close frens till today, cos' we all had a common trait - we spared a thot of those around around us and were not too caught up in our own world; we readily offered help even though we were sometimes busy ourselves... colleagues turned frens and pals and it made working in the office bearable cos u had the support and help... its a different environment now... of course there are still people who i consider as frens but the lot whom i consider as colleagues seems to be making themselves more apparent.... it irks when colleagues who constantly make it known that they are busy can leave the office earlier than those who dont or rarely utter a word of complain and the funny thing is tt people they claimed are pushing work to them are staying back much later than they are... i have nothing against pple who leave on the dot as I'm no angel myself but dont make yourself out to be the most miserable when there are others who seem to have it worse than you... its just tt these pple dont express it only... i dont care if colleagues misunderstand me unless they are my frens... frens know me well enough to know i sometimes have a nasty mouth but i will always extend my help to them... the thing abt frens is that we are so comfortable that we can be frank with each other on how we feel and and we will not be sensitive abt it :)

coffee nations is doing well and am so happy for weiren though he seems worn out... tried the choc mousse cake and it was bloodie good! the sausage meal i had was great too... soup was nice and tasty and the beef sausage was soft and easy to eat :)

think i better get some shut eye... got more stocks to post on lovehappydaisies but i think i put it off for now... dont wanna stress myself hee hee =)

see some of u at the wedding tmr :)